Losing your job can be one of the most stressful experiences in life. Having to deal with an unexpected redundancy is understandably not an enjoyable situation, but it doesn’t have to be as bad as many people think. You may find that you experience different stages of grief, but that is perfectly natural. Give yourself time to grieve, accept your feelings and it may be the change you were actually looking for.
Accept your feelings of loss.
It's normal to feel sad and angry when you lose your job, especially if it's through redundancy. You may feel like a failure, or even like a burden on others. You might be tempted to bottle up these emotions so that you don't appear weak or vulnerable in front of others, but this is not helpful because bottled-up emotions will only cause stress and make things worse for you in the long run.
Know that you're not alone.
The most important thing to remember is that you're not alone. If you look at other people who have been in similar situations, you'll see that they have come out of it and are doing well. Talk to others who have gone through redundancy before so that they can give some advice on how best to handle yourself during this trying time.
Don't blame yourself.
Don't blame yourself for being laid off. It's not your fault that the company no longer needed your services, and it's not a reflection of who you are as a person. Don't feel guilty about looking for another job - in fact, it's essential that you do so! You need to take care of yourself and your family by finding employment with another company as soon as possible.
Practice self care.
Self care is important. It's your responsibility to take care of yourself, and it's okay to do that. You may feel like you have nothing left to give, but there are ways you can make time for yourself while keeping up with the rest of life's responsibilities. Make sure you get enough sleep, you eat well, exercise and do plenty of things that make you feel good, such as your hobbies or spending time with your family.
Take action in the present to create a better future.
The best way to deal with the loss of your job is to take action in the present. Don't wait for the right time or for someone else to give you permission to start something new. Don't wait for an invitation from the universe, either; it's up to YOU!
The first step is going out and doing what makes sense for YOU right now, not later on down the road when things have settled down and calmed down a bit (they won't). It doesn't matter what others think about what you're doing--you should do whatever feels right at this moment because it will help build confidence in yourself as well as give others around them something positive too look forward too seeing happen more often in life."
Losing your job can be a huge blow, but it doesn't mean that you have to be defeated by it. You can use this experience as a catalyst for positive change and growth in your life. Remember that losing your job through redundancy can even be a blessing in disguise if it helps you find something better suited to your talents and passions.
If you are struggling with redundancy or any type of loss in your life, I am here to provide confidential, non-judgemental bereavement counselling in Beaconsfield and online. Get in touch to arrange an initial consultation at a time that suits you.